Write a list of your qualities, your skills and your talents. These are what make you unique. Carry this list around with you, on a piece of paper or as a note on your smart phone so you can remind yourself who you are and what makes you special as you work to change your negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
Think about the times in your life when you've been successful at something. Write a list of these times and remind yourself how you did this and how great it felt when you had achieved your goals. How did you feel and what did these successes look like? Use this past experience to fuel your self-belief and confidence for achieving your goals in the future.
Being able to accept, believe and feel good about compliments is crucial to cultivating a high level of self-confidence. The best way to accept compliments is to look the person in the face, smile and say ‘thank-you'. Nothing else. Bury that urge to reply with a negative response or to bat away the compliment in an embarrassed manner.
Using positive affirmations every day is really powerful and very effective. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, stop and turn it around into a positive statement. Say your positive affirmations out loud or write them down throughout your day as this makes them stronger because you are connecting with yourself.
Take time out to nurture yourself. Eat well and drink less alcohol. Go to sleep early and exercise. Make any small adjustments possible as they are ways to prove to yourself that you are worthy of being cared for. Remember you deserve to take care of yourself and be taken care of!